Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Backwards Beauty


I've been wanting to write about these travesties for awhile now, and while this particular post might seem to sway from my intended topic about alopecia, it is actually getting to the root (pun intended) of why alopecians struggle with their disease: self-image and what society considers normal. Normal is a vague interpretation by one or a collection of individuals. It is different in every society and the only thing normal about families, are that each is abnormal. However, the fashion/beauty world likes to twist the minds of young women to think what should be normal. A small minority of people who have no idea what normal is if it smacked them in their pompous, botox-injected faces.
Ralph Lauren made headlines recently when they distorted a pictured of model Filippa Hamilton (a young girl of only 23 and a size 4) into a double zero model in need of a serious cheesburger. Then they fired her, for what she claims as being too fat for their label. Ralph Lauren of course denies it, but are her accusations really unfounded? The fashion and media industry have been pushing for thin since Twiggy, causing a multitude of unhealthy eating disorders, so girls can look like "perfection." Tabloids are the worst in scrutinizing celebrities about their weight, calling them fat one day and then too skinny the next, accusing them of eating disorders and drug problems. For fashion though no one is too skinny for them, and as designer Karl Lagerfeld insists "No one wants to see curvy women" in reaction to Brigette magazine's decision to only feature "ordinary, realistic" women in its spreads. He also called us realistic women "fat mummies" who don't like to be reminded of our weight issues. Sweet, isn't he? Unfortunately, Mr. Lagerfeld is right in that no one over a size 2 will be walking down the runway in high fashion, unless you want to be deemed the "plus-sized" model. With the average American woman as a size 10-14, albeit some of it is due to the obesity epidemic, average equals normal. Even Barbie, who has gotten a lot of flack for being too perfect and detrimental to self-image, has finally been criticized negatively for her body by *gasp* shoe label Louboutin, claiming her arches are too fat. Well, if Barbie is going to be deemed as the doll with cankels on the next People magazine, what hope is left for the rest of us "realistic" women? Plus, men's primal instinct is to desire women with wider hips because they are supposed to have healthier babies. So eat up women, healthily of course!
In the Hungary the idea of beauty is getting even more distorted. The country has recently crowned its Miss Plastic 2009! A beauty contest, with girls that had nothing done less than a boob and nose job, was held to promote plastic surgery. Plastic surgery in Hungary used to have a stigma against it, and is finally seeing the light into obtaining perfection. Forget that it is serious surgery...let's all get a boob job and forget about those pesky dangers! Why settle for that cute, button nose you were born with when you can have Angelina Jolie's!? You don't see Bernini and Michaelangelo sculptures and paintings as stick thin figures with double Ds because curves and realistic breasts were and still are considered beautiful! How are women supposed to feel good about their natural beauty when you have jackasses saying "...it's time for Hungarian women to care about their appearance. They are the most beautiful in Europe."? If they are so beautiful, then why do they need plastic surgery? Isn't he essentially saying they are only caring about their appearance and can only be beautiful if they have plastic surgery? I think I'm going to schedule for an expensive teeth whitening tomorrow just so I can show men I care about my appearance...kiss my ass Hungary.
The reason why I bring these articles up is because of the serious affect it has on what people view as normal and as beautiful in today's society. Young women all over the world are being forced to fit into these seemingly perfect molds, but we are letting the minority askew what really is normal. Natural beauty and a natural body is not a bad thing, and I thank the few that have taken a stand in the fashion/beauty world to promote that message, but we still have a long way to go. As for me, I skip over the magazine articles that describe how to get the luxurious, silky locks and wish I could do all the neat hairstyles they feature. I struggle with my own idea of beauty because normal is having hair while bald is never "in." I can no sooner strut into a room without my wig as a chubby 14-year-old girl tries to feel like a model in skinny jeans. Yes, I have my own long way to go on self-image, but couldn't the media make it a little easier on us?

Friday, October 23, 2009

True Life

I just finished watching True Life: The True Adventures Of. It was a very compelling collection of behind the scenes compiled into one True Life episode. The producers talk about the situations these young kids had to face and how real it was to portray them in these episodes to the world. In my own words with my blog I am allowing anyone and everyone to see how I live with alopecia. I am not being broadcast on international television and sifting through blogs on the internet might be like finding me as the needle in the haystack, but I am opening up to whomever wants to read my story. Check out the True Life episode on MTV.com. It was really interesting to see what the producers thought of their subjects.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Concierge Concerns

So, I found this quite amusing. I was out one night with some people from my building and we ran into one of our concierges. He is a very nice person who takes his job seriously and always shows his concern for the tenants. Well, he asked me about my wig and was worried that I had cancer, and if there was anything my building could do they would be happy to help, as there were others in the building with cancer. I live with my dad right now, but I travel a lot for work and my concierge thought I was flying in for treatments. Not that cancer is amusing, but I do get this type of reaction a lot from those who do not know me, but know I wear wigs. When I was little, my mother told me that a man came up to her and offered his support since we were new in town and mentioned that his child also had cancer. My mother embarrasingly had to tell him that her daughter was not dying, but she felt horrible that his was. I hold some guilt about this dilemma, because having alopecia is very hard and traumatizing, and yes I have my illnesses because of it, but I am not dying. Do I have a right to be upset about living with a non-deadly skin condition when others who look like me are fighting for their lives?

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Hair's Arrested Development

So I have renewed my previous liking for the long ago canceled TV series Arrested Development. It only lasted 3 seasons, but to me is better than The Office...though I don't really appreciate The Office's dry humor. Arrested Development has some actors who have made names for themselves either before or after the show, such as Jason Bateman, Portia De Rossi, and Michael Cera. David Cross also does a wonderful job as a closet gay husband. "Buster" is in the new movie The Informant and "Maybe" is Ellen Page's new sidekick in Whip It. The reason why I even mention the show is because in the 3rd season, alopecia finds its way as the punchline in quite a few episodes. One of the characters is the CEO of a rival company who wears wigs and tapes on eyebrows because he has alopecia. According to the Bluthe family he is a "freak with no hair." At first I was offended by this as people do not need to misunderstand us as freaks because we cannot grow hair. However, you have to look at the family who is making the remarks, a twisted and shallow family, and the show that portrays the "hairless freak" as a character. I could get mad, but I ended up laughing with the rest of them. Not because the character was considered a freak, but because the show is a satire about a family that lacks all social and moral gracities. It has the same humor as Family Guy or The Simpsons, and if you don't find those funny, well then you aren't going to like Arrested Development. I like those shows though, and I realize that the producers are not making fun of the people with disablities and physical oddities, but making fun of the characters whom live in a warped view of reality. So, instead of getting offended let's laugh with the rest of them because how could we get through life if we didn't take time to laugh at ourselves every now and then?

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Girl shows her baldness to the world

AOL Health published an article about a young woman who shares her alopecia story with the world AND takes a picture without her wig. She also has her own website that offers beauty advice for those with alopecia! I commend this girl for bravely letting anyone and everyone see who she really is without her guard of a wig. I myself have been debating about putting my blog on facebook to let my friends read what I am going through, but with 900+ friends and a lot who do not know me THAT well...it is a little nerveracking. After reading this girl's article and showing her fearlessness, perhaps I can finally let those who "know" me see the real me.

Here is the article from AOL: www.aolhealth.com/health/alopecia

Her personal website is www.alopeciabeautytips.com

Thursday, September 10, 2009

National Alopecia Month

Accordng to NAAF (National Alopecia Aerata Foundation), September is Alopecia Awareness Month! Help your community understand alopecia by going to NAAF's website www.naaf.org/awarenessmonthmaterials.html and send out a pre-written letter to your local media. The letter encourages the community to get involved in the youth campaign that educates young children about alopecia. This is an important campaign because many young children suffer self-esteem issues because of bullying and insecurities due to alopecia. Having others understand the disease can eventually make a child more comfortable around his or her peers, bringing up self-esteem and countering bullying from those who do not understand. Send out your letters today!

Monday, September 7, 2009

A BAD DAY

So the guy I have been dating for the past 2 months has decided to break things off because he has to live in Wyoming every other month for work. We had really great chemistry and he acted like we were going to have a long future together. Needless to say, I am pretty upset about it. It is always nerveracking to introduce a new guy to my issue with alopecia. I have never had a guy care or runaway because of it, but I still get nervous telling someone! Plus, despite the physical aspects of alopecia, there are a lot of emotional self-esteem issues I still deal with and it is not always easy finding someone who I think can handle that.

I am in this new city for about a year now and I just hate going on dates because I am super picky, and I actually saw something in this guy and wanted to take the next step...something I hardly ever do considering my commitment phobia. Not sure where to go from here....
I guess I just have to move forward and hope the next guy will be ok dating someone with alopecia. Though I know someone who has guy dump her because of it...guys can be such assholes.